I would NEVER ……just ask me!
Yep, I thought I knew it all. Had all the answers.
You’ve probably heard people say that phrase… I was one of those women who would say things like…”If I were that kid’s mom, I would never let him throw a fit like that in front of people in a grocery store.” Then I had a two year old. And we went to a grocery store.
Or “No teenager of mine would be living in my house if he did___________!” Then I had two teenagers that continued to live in my house.
How easy is it to say what we would do in situations in which we have no idea what we would really do! It always made me feel better about myself when I could point out the failures in “parenting” as I came upon these situations.
I asked the Lord forgiveness for that attitude. And thankfully I was forgiven.
I think that the older you get, the less you realize that you know. Oh sure, experience, trials and troubles have brought a bit of wisdom, but I don’t pretend like I know it all anymore. That is not a characteristic of confidence. The only thing I am confident is Christ in me.
Galatians 2:20-21: ”I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me. 21 I do not set aside the grace of God; for if righteousness comes through the law, then Christ died in vain.”
We have the opportunity to help others that have gone through parenting situations that we might have gone through. And when parents are dealing with something that we ourselves have not dealt with, we have the opportunity to be supportive…not pass judgement. We need to encourage one another. Let the Christ in us encourage.
As for me, when I look at all the careers and jobs I have had over the years, being a parent was the toughest. It was one of the most important things I ever did to be sure…but it was also the hardest. The responsibility became overwhelming sometimes if I really thought about it. So I had to learn to give it to the Father. I had to truly trust Him with my children’s lives.
I told someone last night that God loves our children more than we can even imagine.
Luke 11:11-13 “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”
Isaiah 49:15-16 : “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-6: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
We have to come to the point in our lives as parents when we realize that we simply do not have all the answers. We do the best we can. And we trust the One who created our children. We were loaned a gift, one that He created. Our job is to teach them in the ways of the Lord and love them unconditionally.
Truly love them unconditionally, and realize as parents that we really don’t know it all.
Whether they throw a fit in the grocery store, or do something in which they should not be allowed to live in your house.
Blessings dear ones~
IN CHRIST ALONE